Choose Love: Be Open-Minded

Happy Valentine’s Day! ❤

Whether you’re in a relationship, contemplating being in one, yearning to find somebody, or loving your season of romantic solitude, I truly wish you the best.

As for me, I’ve now been married 4+ years (June will be our 5th anniversary! Time flies), and I’ve yet to make my husband any chocolate! I had plans (I always have plans :-), but they didn’t work hard enough. Clearly I’m going to have to tell them to get it together.

COME ON PLANS WHY CAN’T YOU JUST WORK OUT??!

Maybe next year? Making chocolate with an almost 2 year old sounds fun…bit dangerous, but fun. Might as well make it a group effort and invite some friends over for a chocolate making party with all the children!! *cue evil laughter*

Ahem.

Although not historically the most innocent of holidays, the modern-day concept is–ideally–supposed to celebrate love. May you love well!

Because I suffered a lack of foresight about what day I’d be posting despite writing out all the dates in a notebook, I didn’t realize today’s post could be about love. I’d already decided to write about inflexibility! Thankfully, it quickly dawned on me that I could do both, so I am ^_^.

The other day I read an article by Mr. Chadwick Moore (“I’m a gay New Yorker–and I’m coming out as a conservative“), and it spurred my thoughts on the pitfalls of being inflexible (aka, in this scenario, being open minded). It’s obvious that neither “side”, conservative or liberal, or anything in-between is automatically open-minded. But the point I gathered from the article is that there is a shocking amount of intolerance bludgeoning people…and it’s often due to a simple, dogged refusal to accept or even consider alternate viewpoints.

And I get it; if you just know that something is right (or wrong), why should you bother entertaining anyone else’s position, especially if their position is the exact opposite of yours? I won’t bore you with a long list of the shortcomings of relativism (it’s one giant shortcoming. There. The end :D), but I will ask: is the tolerance we tout and cheer for actually tolerance when it includes only those who abide by a particular standard, and hangs the rest?

If you’re out and about proclaiming how tolerant you are and how much you accept others and how you’re such a progressive thinker, I charge you to pause and examine yourself as to whether or not you’re truly considering the other person by choosing to be open-minded. Being open-minded isn’t about becoming a jellyfish (read: spineless person ;-); it’s about being conscientious, circumspect, humble, and patient. It’s about seizing the opportunity to listen and learn, even if/when you think you know better. It’s about loving them.

Being open-minded celebrates common ground and builds bridges instead of walls and fortresses.

I’ll be the first to admit I have my work cut out for me, but the rewards far exceed the effort…so I choose to listen before I speak. I choose to respect and honor those with vastly differing worldviews, values, and moral standards. I choose to meet people where they are even if/when I cannot accept what they adhere to as truth. I choose love.

Choose with me.

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